Aug 10, 2020
Bonnie and Rajeev discuss the dynamics of feeling alone in community. Where one feels isolated and abnormal, forced to pretend to be accepted. Being fully authentic in SDA community is nearly impossible.
As ex Seventh-day Adventists (SDA), Bonnie and Rajeev reflect back and find it is both troubling and re-traumatizing. Harsh memories range from classmates with mental health crises treated as if they were demon-possessed instead of getting proper medical/mental health treatment to ridiculous focus over dress codes.
Mixed in with all of the memories were many good ones. Good, lasting, friendships and some very fun times.
Ultimately the change to a new more accepting community has been worth the losses incurred (from leaving Adventism) for the co-hosts.
One insight shared is to try to frame feeling "Alone in Community" as a call from truer and deeper self and truer and deeper spirit.
Check out Bonnie and Rajeev's other podcast at irenicast.com